4/30/12

Just Be



I've been spoiled to have some very nice friends.  For example, one friend of mine runs this classy etsy shop and once and a while she sends me little goodies (like these) but last month she sent me something especially sweet.  My heart skipped a beat when I saw this necklace that read, “Just Be”.  How could she have possibly known that was the exact motto I needed to wrap around my neck at this moment in time?  Can she read minds??

The past month or two have been a little bit tougher for me.  Not tough as in please have pitty on me it's been really hard, just tough in the kind of way that I just have to raise my hands high towards the heavens and look up and say, "now what?".  I've been pondering little things in my heart - like the meaning of life, my purpose, reason for existing... yahda yahda... just lots of really light stuff like that.  You never do that, do you?  When I have these overwhelming soul searching kinda sporadic days I usually don’t want to get out of bed in the morning and when Hum asks me what is wrong I say, “nothing... I’m just really... overwhelmed” with a big exhale.  When Hum hears my say that phrase he usually gets that deer-in-the-headlights look on face and says “Ohhh No!”.  Then he immediately retreats to the kitchen to do the dishes because he knows that is the only thing that is in his control to make me feel better in that utterly bad moment of overwhelmingness. (What a good man, right?)

Hum always has a level head and a calm spirit.  That’s one of the things I love most about him (besides his Gaston-like biceps, of course).  I tell him everything and I always have since I was a teenager.  He’s been able to suck the truth out of me with ease and I truth vomit everything when we are talking until there is nothing left to say. How does he do it!?  (I'm usually kind of stubborn. Perhaps (! nerd alert !) he slips veritaserum in my morning orange juice?).  The other day I talked to him about the weight of the world that seemed to stand as a road block in my path.  He listened and simply said, “Caitlin (I mean, er,  Hue), just do whatever you want to whenever you want to”.  He tells me this all the time. He's so wise.

Sometimes I get distracted by shoulda’s and coulda’s as I worry my day away (which we all know is a real time suck) and I forget that most creative pursuits are successful by remembering to “do whatever you want to whenever you want to” (as longs as get stuff done... of course) and to always be yourself.  I heard a quote the other day thanks to my amazing friend, Mindy, that completely changed my attitude.




Thanks Thomas, you are a pretty smooth guy. I have taken this thought to heart and I will always try to remember to just be. To just be myself and to let my individuality and uniqueness be the wind that guides my ship, as cliche as it may sound, because this is the only way I know how to be happy and the only way I know how to succeed.

I'd love to hear your comments:
>> How do you cope on your "overwhelming days"? How do you like to be soothed?
>> Do you have to remind yourself to just be, too?
>> I like to fill in the blank behind the just be _____ [happy, kind, yourself, ?] or just add a period. What would be your motto for the day?
>> Whenever I think about people reading minds, like my friend obviously read mine, I can't help but think of that Zoolander moment.

20 comments:

  1. Depression means you ate living in the past. Anxiety means you are living in the future. Serenity means you ate living in the present.

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  2. I needed to read this today, for the last few months I've been trying to overcome my social anxiety/ low self confidence, the what if's and the alternate routes, and have been wanting a tattoo that says 'just be' so it is definitely my motto as well. Although one those necklaces would be great option.

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  3. Alice - so true! Thank you! Tasha - so glad it was meaningful! :)

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  4. Thanks Caitlin for the post.. totally love this. I have lots of moments like this too.. sometimes its hard not to ask myself, why I am I doing ..... or should I be doing ..... and lately I have been anxious about a lot of things. I find that when I am pushing hard towards something I know is right, I tend to have have a lot of anxiety too, sometimes I fear being successful just as much as I fear NOT being successful. You just have to keep pushing forward right? and Just be.

    Love this post. You are beautiful and wise.

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  5. I want to tuck this post away for a reminder when needed. The idea of just doing whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it seems so simple, but it can be so hard to just let it all go and give in to that way of being.

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  6. Or how about this one I saw on a blog a while back? Worry is imagination misplaced. I happened to find that on a super anxious day and it completely changed my thinking!

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  7. dude. you're a constant source of inspiration. today, in particular, for the soul.

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  8. As a graduating senior, this past semester has been a series of overwhelming moments piling on top of others. Finally, after a lot of tears and foreseen failures, I wrote myself a note. It said "You will finish. You will succeed. You will be ok. Now, go." And pinned it up. Every moment I doubt myself now, I look at it.

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  9. when I get overwhelmed and have similar thoughts--wishing I didn't have to get up in the morning, etc--my husband usually forces me to take a walk. It ALWAYS works. It makes me feel so refreshed and alive and happy and energetic. You should try it.

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  10. Oh boy. Anxiety is quite the enemy. I am historically terrible at coping with stress. Last year, I had intussusception (small intestine telescopes in on itself) and gastritis that got chalked up to stress because a) they couldn't find any other cause and 2) I was stressin'. hard. I lost a ton of weight and had to go on a medication to help me gain it back because my appetite was shot. I'll keep an eye on these comments for tips! I'm going to try something called biofeedback in a few weeks to see if that helps.

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  11. Well said, Caitlin. Makes me happy that the quote found it's way into your hands. Makes me happier that you released it into the hands of your readers. Way to "be."

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  12. I get super high strung when I'm anxious and I tend to "just be" nothing but a giant ball of stress and nerves. However, I have found that list making usually calms me down as does doing the laundry. And finally, my favorite remedy for being overwhelmed is watching a movie. "Moulin Rogue" came in handy many-a-time during finals.

    Love ya, missy.

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  13. Well, dear Caitlin, I needed this post today. I wasted a lot of years worrying about what others thought of me, trying to please, trying never to ruffle feathers. My dad used to always tell me to just "breath and be" and stop fretting. He reminded me that it would age me unnecessarily. I had a college boyfriend who once told me that 98% of the things we worry about never happen and the other 2% might happen anyway, so why worry? I've always loved the wisdom of Thomas Moore. Thanks for sharing this quote. When anxiety creeps into my being I put on some great music and think of something nice to do for someone else.

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  14. Yup, that about sums it up completely!

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  15. well said friend. glad that necklace made it's way around your neck. hang in there.

    thank you, too. oh, and ya, sometimes i think i really do.

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  16. that quote about anxeity strikes truth to the soul. holy cow.

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  17. Hi - I stumbled across your blog a few months ago and periodically check back on what's been happening in Hue and Hum town. You have no idea how much this post meant to me, especially today. Today was my "overwhelmed" "don't wanna do anything" day. First off I had a bad day at work, then I come home to pay bill and got zip in the bank now. I've been feeling like this for some time. My fiancé lost his job in March and I'm the primary bread winner now, all the while trying to manage going to school. Things are looking up now, but today just seemed to be the day from hell for me. Thank you for your post and the reminder to "Just Be." I work in a doctors office and we had a patient come in today who only has 18 months to live. I guess we all just need to be reminded how sweet life is and how little time we have on this earth to be wasting it on silly things.

    Thanks again for the post! I look forward to coming back.

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  18. Megan - thank you for your kind words! I am glad it was meaningful to you. It was meaningful for me to write. I hope you stop back by too, thanks for being a blog friend :).

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  19. this is part of the reason i've been sitting outside so much. to let the kids play, yes, but mostly i'm running away from that feeling of everything being much too much. or not running away....just leaving it inside.

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